Have you ever experienced any form of negative thinking?
Have you ever let your self-talk take over and tell you that you’re just not good enough?
Have you ever found that your limiting beliefs are holding you back from experiencing true fulfilment in life?
At some point or another we have all experience negative self-talk or negative thinking. It’s not unheard of, it’s not uncommon and I’m willing to bet that every single person you know has gone down that road at some point or another. Even my head was nodding along with a massive big ‘yes’ to all those questions. When it comes to negative thinking, I have been there, done that, bought the t-shirt AND all the accessories to match and boy, was my inner mean girl ruling the roost. She would knock me down, discourage me and bully me at every opportunity she had until one day I put my foot down and said ‘enough is enough’. Maybe you’re at that stage now. Maybe you were a month ago or maybe it’s something you’re working your way towards.
It’s time to say good bye to your inner mean girl and put that negative thinking to bed. She needs to go on a prolonged holiday, far away from you, where her only influence may be the odd phone call here or there that you can disconnect from at any time.
It’s those words you quietly let sink into every cell of your body. It’s the conversation you have within you that guides you through life. It should be encouraging you, praising you and showering you with abundant unconditional love. The trouble is, sometimes that self-talk can turn sour, fearful and angry. When this happens, negative thinking takes over and if we’re not careful it can nestle down, set up camp and stay much longer than it’s ever needed or wanted.
Was it last month?
5 minutes ago while you were getting your coffee from the cute cafe down the street?
When you tell yourself a negative story ABOUT yourself you are manifesting the negative.
So, what are you putting out there? Are you making sure that your words are kind and full of loving energy? Or are they mean and stinky? Are you manifesting all the great you possibly can in your life or are you reaffirming all your worst fears?
Negative self-talk is one thing. Thinking the ‘bad’ is one thing. Speaking it out loud and sending the words out into the universe is another. When you notice your words are no longer coming from a place of love, catch them. Stop yourself, catch those words and put them in the bin. There is no room for that kind of negative talk if you want to be the best version of yourself.
Negative talk – whether internal or external – WILL hold you back in life. We are so hard on ourselves but is that going to get you anywhere? No, it won’t. It’s as simple as that. If you’re projecting that negativity onto yourself then how are you ever going to take inspired action to propel you to where you want to be? How will you love yourself if you’re bullying yourself? How will you ever achieve your dreams if you’re declaring that they will never happen for you.
There are 3 areas that I want to touch on when it comes to negative self-talk or negative thinking and those are:
Life isn’t always sunshine, rainbows and roses.
Sometimes life will send you challenges to work through and grow from but how do you handle times like these? Do you flourish? Work through those obstacles and come out stronger the other side?
Do you cave, crumble and tell yourself that you’re an undeserving failure?
Once they have circulated through your cells or through your spoken words, they are out for the world to hear.
We don’t always get what we want and sometimes we make the wrong choices. Does that mean we’re silly, stupid or a disappointment? Hell no! Maybe it means we are human, or that we went through challenges that left us confused for the future but it most certainly does not mean we are undeserving of living a truly epic, healthy and nourishing life.
If you want something to change in your life then that whole process starts with the words you use internally or externally. Those words are what will encourage you to take inspired action to change your life.
Do you love your body?
Do you love every part of yourself – your emotional, physical and spiritual self?
Are you overjoyed at being the beautiful being, that is you?
Negative body talk and body shaming is probably one of the most common forms of negative self-talk. We are bombarded with images and videos constantly through TV and social media that almost declare one body superior to another whether it’s hair colour, eye colour, skin colour, age, cellulite, muscle tone, height, weight, size, shape. You name it, there has been some form of judgement over it. Although all of this is online or coming through a television screen, there’s one massive flaw. These idealisms become embedded into us and can lead to feelings of resentment, fulfilment and disappointment towards our own bodies. We start viewing our bodies from a place of negativity with the thoughts that we’re just not good enough because maybe you don’t fit into a size 8 pair of jeans, or maybe you have to wear glasses or are disappointed by your lack of a Kim Kardashian booty. When this happens, we start approaching life from a place of LACKING not abundance. Lacking implies that we are not there yet, that things aren’t good enough, that WE aren’t good enough.
If you want to heal your relationship with yourself then you have to forgive yourself for all those mean words you declared about yourself. Forgive yourself for the torment and bullying that went on internally.
Once you do that, you can shower yourself with unconditional love and build on that beautiful relationship you have with yourself and your temple of a body.
Let go of those limiting beliefs.
Stop telling yourself that same story over and over again. You know what story I’m talking about. The story where you fail, where you’re not good enough, where you’re not intelligent, beautiful or confident enough.
To live your most epic life you have to create a future that is in alignment with your truest self. Don’t sell yourself short by buying into the negative stories you have about yourself. Change the words you use because words are the most powerful tool when it comes to action. To make inspired change you have to take action, but you can’t take action if you’re not being kind to yourself.
Be gentle to yourself and push when it’s time, rest when you’re tired and comfort when it’s needed. Don’t beat yourself up and stop filling your head with ‘I can’t’, ‘I won’t’ and ‘I’m not’. Instead, fill your vocabulary with words that scream abundance, fortune and power like ‘I CAN’, ‘I WILL’ and ‘I AM’.
Forgive yourself for all those stinky, smelly, pooey thoughts you have previously told yourself and forgive yourself anytime you declare you’re not good enough in the future. Stop being judgemental – just show up the best you possibly can in every situation and move forward from a place of kindness. Treat your body with respect in the here and now – treat your physical and emotional self with all the unconditional love you possibly can. Shower your life with positive talk and manifest what you dream.