“What do you most desire from your spouse? What makes you feel loved above all else?”
I first read ‘The 5 Love Languages’ about two years ago and it couldn’t have come at a better time. Ben and I had only been married for a year and needless to say, we both had space to grow and room for improvement. This book is one of the most enlightening books I have ever read when it comes to relationships – especially your romantic relationships. Although it focuses on those intimate relationships, there is a lot of wisdom on relationships in general and gives you plenty of food for thought.
Think about it this way – If Joe speaks English but Janice only speaks Chinese, then how would Janice know that Joe loves her if he only ever says it in English? She wouldn’t, and vice versa. It’s this theory that makes it so important we are speaking our partners love language so that they truly know how much we love them. It’s the most natural thing, to express our love in a way that we perceive love to be BUT it might not be the same way our partner perceives love and that’s where the misalignment might occur.
Not only that, but with us all being so busy now a days, expressing love can be on the bottom of our to-do lists. This book demonstrates just how important expressing our love is as well as the equal importance of expressing it in the right LOVE LANGUAGE.
“This is a book about saying it – and hearing it – clearly.”
Gary Chapman, the author of ‘The 5 Love Languages’, is an author, speaker and counsellor and is passionate about helping people form lasting relationships. In this book he reveals the 5 love languages that most of us express our love with. They are:
This book is amazing as it goes into depth about each love language, how to express love with that love language AND has a questionnaire to find out what your love language profile is as well as your partners. Needless to say, this was a hugely pivotal book for me and I highly recommend it to anyone, regardless of if you are in a relationship or not.
“The number of ways to express love within a love language is limited only by your imagination.”
“We needed love before we ‘fell in love, and we will need it as long as we live.”
“Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse’s perspective.”
“To invest in loving your spouse is to invest in blue-chip stocks.”
“Your picture of a perfect mate should give you some idea of your primary love language.”