Our actions are so powerful – they can either help to create the lives we truly desire or keep us from the lives we dream of.
We know how important taking inspired action is to help guide us in the direction in life we wish for ourselves but how do your actions align with who you are? If our lives were only valued and seen by our actions, would that align with your purpose and who you really are deep down at your core?
Who we feel we really are at our core can sometimes be completely different from the lives we actually lead. That might mean we stop ourselves living the life that would be in true alignment with who we are, or it might mean we aren’t taking the necessary action steps to get us there. Either way, when you manage to get to a point of being true to yourself and living a life that aligns with that, your life with feel in harmony and flow a whole lot easier.
Is there something that is truly important to you?
If there is something that is important to you, do you live it or not live it?
What are your core values?
What do you believe in?
What lights you up?
How would you describe who you truly are to someone who didn’t know you?
Are you living a life aligned with that?
Actions speak louder than words and it’s all very well saying that you are X, Y or Z, but unless you’re living that truth, you won’t be in harmony with yourself or the life you’re living. That’s when we can start to feel stuck, under pressure, overwhelmed, anxious, lost and alone. We can tell ourselves over and over again what’s important to us but we have to align our actions with that. It’s time to get clear on what’s important in your life and decide what you can do today to live that truth.
Get a pen and paper (or your journal) and start writing. Jot down anything that comes to mind about who you are and what you’re in this world to do. Maybe answer some of the questions above or start bullet pointing thoughts on the following:
Once you have a strong list depicting who you are, really let it sink in. Understand who you are, not just on a superficial level of what you THINK you should be, but rather WHO YOU REALLY ARE.
Then ask yourself:
Understanding who we are can help us see where we aren’t living our truth and what areas of our lives need improvement. I’m not saying you have to completely overhaul your life, but taking small steps every day towards true alignment will help you towards living the life you dream of.
When who you are and your actions are aligned, you’ll not only be able to serve yourself to the best of your ability, but others as well.
The biggest question to ask yourself is this:
Do you put the responsibility on yourself or someone/something else outside of yourself?
The thing about living our lives that can sometimes prevent us from living our truth is that we experience a million and one different outside influences every day. All of those can INFLUENCE the way we live our lives and whether that aligns with who we are or not.
We forget that we have the power over our actions and instead give that power away to those outside influences whether they are other people in our lives or circumstances. In other words, we forget how responsible we are for our own lives.
Think about the thought-action-outcome sequence.
We ultimately have control and power over our lives and it start with a thought or even a feeling. That thought or feeling then creates an action that we do or do not take. That course of action then determines the outcome. All of those outcomes added together create the lives that we live.
So how are your thoughts affecting your actions? How are those actions affecting your life? Are you taking responsibility for your life?
When things aren’t going too well or when we experience feelings stemmed from fear (doubt, anxiety, stress, overwhelm, disappointment, jealousy etc.) it’s all too easy to give the power for our lives away and blame others or outside circumstances – ultimately giving the power away. It’s easier to do that than taking responsibility for our actions and learning where and what went ‘wrong’. What we forget is that there isn’t any ‘wrong’, there is no such thing as ‘failure’ – it’s all just another opportunity to learn and grow! We do this because as humans we seek comfort and stepping outside of that comfort zone means being UNCOMFORTABLE. Taking responsibility for our actions can be uncomfortable, especially when those actions create outcomes that we see as undesirable. However, once you release the pressure from yourself and change the way you view your life, it will be a whole lot easier to accept responsibility and move on.
Think about your thought:
Rather than thinking you ‘failed’ or something went ‘wrong’ or that you’re not worthy enough, change that thought to one of kindness and love.
Then your action will change:
You’ll be able to move forward from a place of love and accept responsibility and ownership for your life.
Then your outcome will change:
You’ll accept the power your actions have over your life and take the inspired actionable steps to get you to where you want to be.
It’s time to stop over/underestimating your responsibility for your life. We have complete responsibility for ourselves – others aren’t responsible for us or our lives no matter how easy it may seem to pass the blame or power on. It’s our thoughts and feelings that have all the power as to how our life plays out. Once you take back that control and understand how your life begins to unfold from an internal thought, you’ll be able to live the life of your dreams. Yes, some circumstances may make things harder for you than others. Yes, maybe things won’t always work out the way you WANT them to – but that doesn’t mean it’s wrong or that you’re wrong. Life is unfolding for you just the way it was meant to based on the actions you’re taking.
It makes sense that if our lives unfold from our internal thoughts, then to live in true harmony, those actions we take must also stem from who we are at our core. So, who are you? Who do you want to be? How do you want your life to unfold? Understand who you are so that you can live your truth. Don’t over/underestimate the responsibility and power you have to create the life of your dreams – all you should ever ask of yourself is that your actions align with not only who you are deep down at your core, but that they align with what you want your life to be.