it’s mostly over those things that we have in common. By sharing those things, you create a bond of friendship, loyalty and trust. What you connected with, may then start to turn to dreams that you share as well. Now, I’m not talking about the dreams that come to life when we sleep at night or nap during the day - I’m talking about those dreams that get you excited for the future, those Disney princess dreams that keep your mind full of wonder and hope, and most importantly those dreams that keep you motivated in life.
When we first start sharing those dreams with our love, it’s exciting! Whether it’s about buying a new house, getting married or having children, those dreams keep you both looking to the future and ultimately bring you closer together as a couple. However, as time goes on, we forget to continue to find those dreams to share. The fairy tale wedding might have happened or you might have finally moved to that dream house…and then what? Most of the time we get lazy and we stop finding dreams to share with our partners and instead make more of an effort on focusing on those ‘selfish’ dreams of ours. They’re great too! Don’t get me wrong, I’m obviously a big believer in working towards your goals, making yourself happy and most importantly ‘me time’! But we need to remember that as one dream that we share with our partner is completed, or fades from memory, that we need to start to make new ones which we can look forward to right away!
Whether they are achievable immediately, or will take a few years, it doesn’t matter - just create them.
By sharing dreams and goals you have opened up a channel of deep connection and communication. It also builds on the trust you have for each other as you both share a love, passion and visual for the future. That bond that you once had is still strong and can be built stronger because you will constantly realise you are aiming for that ultimate goal of being a happy couple.
Lets quickly go back to those personal goals we have. Yes, they are fantastic…obviously! But the problem is that they are personal to us and therefore our hubby, wife or partner will not share that same enthusiasm for it that we do. Therefore, most of the time we lose that intimate communication we are trying to achieve. By sharing dreams and creating those that you both are looking forward to or aiming towards, gives you both the opportunity to talk about it with shared love! It means that rather than talking about work, or the rubbish day you have had, or even the rubbish day you feel you will have tomorrow, you talk about life in a much more positive way! All of a sudden your partnership is full of passion and positivity.
Those who we spend most time with really influence our balance of negative and positive energy. Naturally as human beings we vibe off others and the energy they bring to the table. By talking about shared dreams with your partner, you create a constant supply of positive energy that you both can tap into when you need it.
It’s so hard to stay motivated and positive about working towards your dreams. The brilliant thing about sharing dreams with your partner is that whenever one of you has a moment of doubt, the other will be there to lift you up and remind you of why they are your dreams in the first place. Only someone who shares the same passion for that dream, will be able to get you back on track when you need it.
These dreams are shared, therefore you need to be together in order for them to happen. You are both continually giving each other that security that there will be a solid future; that you are both looking into ahead, and that in that future you are both essential in each other’s lives. That sense of security can bring so much peace and happiness in any relationship.
I think the biggest thing to remember is that sharing dreams with your loved one is such an important part of a relationship. It helps keep those channels of trust and communication open, which ultimately brings you closer together.